Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 74

In this episode, Dr. Shaw reviews one of her favorite principles for living and that is that each of us should not take things personally.  It sounds like an easy request, but because we all have feelings and reactions, it can sometimes be a difficult principle to live by.  Plus, there are moments in our parenting chores when something might be said or done that really feels like a personal affront.  It is important in those moments to step back and remind ourselves about the ingredients that went into creating the situation that we are in and to remind ourselves, again, to not take it personally.  This is another brief but valuable gem from Dr. Shaw.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 73

In this episode inspired by this week's Valentine's Day holiday, Dr. Shaw addresses a few different aspects of love.  She talks about generosity, and about how her philosophy has always been that the more you give, the more you get to keep. She always talks about how important it is that, whether you are dealing with just yourself or with others, you must come from a place where love is spoken. She also shares a touching story about a friend who recently lost a spouse. That couple had a fantastic relationship wherein their lives literally revolved around each other, and with one now gone, the actions of the remaining partner were a great example of how to keep one's spirit alive within the language of love.  In closing, Dr. Shaw reminds us that when she writes her children's books, they are written from a place where love is spoken.  Happy Valentine's Day!

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 72

In this episode, Dr. Shaw discusses a child's desire for attention, and specifically she is talking about what mechanisms are at work when a child is motivated by the external reward of attention as opposed to the internal rewards that come with success.  It's a tricky situation because bestowing praise on a child is an important part of marking and noting the child's appropriate behavior, but you don't want a child to be doing the right thing for the wrong reason, for example, just to get praise or attention.  Dr. Shaw cites an interesting example of something that would occur when she was teaching in a classroom wherein a child would seek praise in an artificial manner.  The internal versus external rewards for children is a fascinating topic, and Dr. Shaw offers good guidance in this brief but poignant podcast.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 71

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw reviews a theme that has come up before in her material, but has also been coming up again via input from parents and it is the subject of DISCIPLINE.  Dr. Shaw offers an interesting point of view about discipline as she identifies with the word more for its positive connotations that its negative ones.  While many parents and educators hear the word "discipline" as meaning "punitive" which is negative, Dr. Shaw relates to the kind of discipline that's needed for accomplishment such as having the discipline to do a task or fulfill a responsibility.  She also discusses having natural consequences for the child whenever there is misbehavior as well as the proper approach when dealing with a child who is having a temper tantrum and offers ways to communicate in that situation with your child.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 70

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw takes a step back and provides a fascinating overview of some of the parenting challenges that continue during our nearly two-year old pandemic.  Dr. Shaw would like to see parents take a more active role in providing the necessary learning opportunities for their children that are missing because of the altered social settings and unnatural interaction that is taking place currently in schools.  She suggests that the effort may not always be fun or painless, but it seems essential as socialization for young children continues to be severely disrupted.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 69

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw takes a brief moment to put forward another very simple but profound principle that applies to education and parenting and that is that behaviors have consequences.  It seems like a very simple observation, but if a child exhibits good behavior it will result in good consequences and if a child exhibits bad behavior it will likely result in bad consequences.  The most direct lesson for the child can actually be that it's not their parent who creates the consequence, but the child's behavior creates it.  There's also a sidebar in this podcast regarding Dr. Shaw's observation of overly casual informality between young children (6 or 7 years old) that can result in an "attitude" when dealing with adults or more formal situations.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 68

In this episode Dr. Shaw touches on a topic that has come up before in both her Parenting Guide (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WJRX7JF) and on these podcasts, and the question is... when a child's behavior equals need, how do you balance that with healthy boundaries and consistency.  The key for Dr. Shaw is front-loading and having the ability to discern the difference between pure misbehavior and behavior that earnestly stems from a need.  She talks about how to recognize and understand that difference AND how to react in that situation.  She also talks briefly about the impact of social and emotional role play.  Dr. Shaw has a series of children's picture books that tell stories about feelings, emotions, life events and life lessons, but she also created dolls based on the characters in the book so that children can learn from action as well as the words on a page.  https://learnwithmeremotely.com/shop/ 

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 67

On this episode, Dr. Shaw tackles another concept that was requested as a topic by someone visiting her website, and the subject is that of managing expectations when teaching a child.  Dr. Shaw was well-known for her multi-age classroom program, and she points out that in that program, children developed at different paces, and that the key to properly working with children is CAREFUL ATTENTIVE CONSCIOUS OBSERVATION. She explains how this simple but important principle operates, and she also discusses how to properly mix work and play in the educational process.  Of particular interest in this podcast is her illustrative example of the approach to the simple task of teaching a child to write their name.  Enjoy this concise lesson in education.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 66

During this brief but poignant year-end podcast, Dr. Shaw shares a couple of her key wishes and goals for education and parenting.  One priority that she promotes is maintaining a human connection and not to allow academic priorities to overshadow quality relationships.  She has long felt that providing children and family members with an environment that feels safe, secure and nurturing can be a large part of the task in education our children. 

Thanks for listening throughout 2021.  We wish you Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year from the LearnWithMeRemotely.com team!

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 65

In this brief podcast episode, Dr. Shaw dives into a question that comes to her frequently, and that is... "how do I get my children to listen to me?"   Dr. Shaw has written an entire Parenting Guide on Effective Communication with children, but in this podcast she focuses on one very interesting and under-discussed aspect of getting respect from children, and that is the balance of firm and fun.  Here, Dr. Shaw shares both solid parenting tips and some of her teaching experience in order to illustrate this principle.  She also concludes with some good advice on having, teaching and modeling generosity during this holiday season.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 64

This week Dr. Shaw responds to a request from a parent that she help to tackle a behavioral issue with a child, namely, the child is acting out and throwing tantrums.  Dr. Shaw uses this opportunity to offer up an assessment of the situation and more importantly to provide solutions for both the parent and child.  Her understanding of the best ways to communicate effectively with children help set the stage to implement strategies that will lead to a peaceful resolution and not only in the present, but for future instances where the child might be tempted to scream and yell and act out.  As always, Dr. Shaw's advice is simple yet profound, and it's encapsulated in this podcast.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 63

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw conducts a brief discussion regarding interaction with your child during situations of adversity.  She begins by breaking down your (the adult's) behavior into three important component parts... to begin with love, to have a strategy and to maintain your own resilience.  Dr. Shaw also incorporates the notion of "Backwards Design" in education into this conversation.  Backwards Design is an approach where you decide upon your desired result first, and then you can create a modality or curriculum to reach that goal.  There's a lot of information in a short space in this podcast, and we hope you enjoy and try out what she suggests.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 62

In this episode, Dr. Shaw discusses not one but two tales of success.  The first story she shares was inspired by a parent who had contacted her to talk about the notion of a child's mistake being a learning opportunity.   The idea of the mis-take leading to a re-take is a popular theme of Dr. Shaw's and she leads the listener through a brief but effective summary of how that concept works in the realm of parenting.  Her second tale of success is about a more personal triumph, and the theme of that section of the podcast is really about how one's past, every aspect of one's past, can define you at one point, but then later, one needs to leave the baggage of that old story behind in some capacity.   Your history informs you, but at some point can inhibit you.  Dr. Shaw has seen various people treat her with the high regard that she deserves recently both personally and professionally, and there are lessons for her and for everyone in that "arrival."

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep. 61

In this podcast episode Dr. Shaw continues to examine the four main principles from one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements.  Having recently discussed the principles of not making assumptions, being impeccable with your word and not taking things personally, In this episode, it's the principle that one should "do your personal best."  Dr. Shaw discusses how that notion enters into the world of parenting and how an adult needs to model and mark and note instances of doing one's best whenever possible.  She also steers the conversation into a fascinating look at her own experience of parenting an adolescent girl and uses that story to illustrate how a child enters an important phase when they argue with and separate from the parent.  

 

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 60

In this podcast episode Dr. Shaw shifts her focus to a subject that she depicts as essential... the notion of OBSERVATION.   It may seem obvious, but in parenting, as in all human relationships, one must be guided to take the right action.  Often inaction occurs because one doesn't know what to do or what to do in order to manage a situation, but if one observes, the correct next steps will reveal themselves.  In this podcast, Dr. Shaw offers up a number of examples of how to observe and what outcomes can be secured when observation occurs and analysis follows.  This  conversation also touches on several topics that have come up on other podcasts, so it also serves as a broad review of some of Dr. Shaw's key principles.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 59

In this podcast episode Dr. Shaw picks up on a resource that she's touched upon in other recent podcasts, and that's the four main principles from one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements.  In this case, it's the principle of "not making assumptions."  Dr. Shaw dives into a brief but deep conversation about the errors and misrepresentations that can occur during parent-child communication.  As always, she gives concrete, illustrative examples as explains this concept, and once again, she provides great advice on effectively parenting within the context of that principle

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 58

In this episode, Dr. Shaw briefly re-visits a topic that is actually more than just a topic... it's one of the 10 governing principles in her recent parenting book which is a guide to effective communication with children.   The principle is that you need to CHECK FOR UNDERSTANDING with your child, particularly around agreements that were already established such as a bedtime or what's for dinner.  Dr. Shaw uses an illustration from her own life whereby she and her partner, in order to communicate more effectively about routine household responsibilities, have taken on a quick but formal form of acknowledgement when setting priorities at home.  As she speaks through her own practice, it becomes a solid example of how it can be applied to parenting and to having children stick with their own commitments.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 57

In this episode, Dr. Shaw explores a topic that was raised by a question that came in via her website at www.learnwithmeremotely.com.  The question was with regard to disciplining a child, and specifically... how do we identify the difference  between a learned behavior that needs to be corrected versus negative behaviors that might be out of the control of the child.  It's a profound question, and the answer requires the paying of close attention to the situation by the parent or caretaker.  Dr. Shaw cites some examples of both and her discussion on the topic is brief but fascinating.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 56

In this podcast episode Dr. Shaw draws on her own recent life experience and raises a topic she has discussed in other recent podcasts, and that is the notion of children having confidence.   Dr. Shaw points out that there is a stark difference between having confidence and being cocky, and she feels that it is important for anyone raising children to be well aware of the actions and condition surrounding a child when it comes to having confidence.  She discuss that there are ways to celebrate a child without the celebration being shallow or void of meaning, and she also discusses how a parent can model for a child and initiate the right kind of discussion in order to boost confidence in an honest, sincere and respectful way.  

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 55

In this podcast episode Dr. Shaw picks up on a topic she raised in podcast episode #52 which is an exploration of one of the four main principles from one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements.  In this case once again, it's the principle of "not taking things personally" which can be a challenge in one's own life.  Dr. Shaw takes the conversation one step further and delves into the notion of being defensive as a reaction to taking something personally.  She leads a brief but powerful discussion about what it means to be defensive and how it can be counter-productive in any relationship but particularly in a family dynamic.  She adds some poignant illustrative examples as explains this concept, and once again, she provides great advice on effectively communicating with others.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 54

In this edition of Dr. Mindy Shaw's podcast, she has a different focus than usual, although her path on this episode does lead to her philosophy for parenting.  Dr. Shaw had a close friend pass away right before this podcast, and it caused her to reflect on life's priorities and in particular what one's own roles and expectations are in one's  relationships.  As it relates to education, Dr. Shaw was inspired in this episode to once again shares her philosophy that knowledge in and of itself is not the goal and that knowledge without social kindness and being a part of community is almost meaningless.  This philosophy has always been at the heart of her classroom teaching and it also is a key ingredient of the social and emotional learning curriculum she has created via her children's nonfiction picture book series.  Listen in and in all likelihood you will agree.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 53

In this edition of Dr. Mindy Shaw's podcast, she has elected to do a form of review.  Over the past year, she has shared so many parenting tips and so much incredible educational guidance, it can be a lot to take in.  In this episode, she takes you through a few of her favorite topics... modeling behavior for your child, marking and noting important moments in communication and more.  As always, there is a ton of valuable insight, so enjoy....

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 52

As you may have noticed, this podcast is #52 and that means it marks one year of Dr. Mindy Shaw providing her weekly insights in podcast form.  As Dr. Shaw marks that occasion, she reviews in this podcast how her recent work efforts of writing children's nonfiction books and doing podcasts all began and what motivates her to continue to contribute in this fashion.  Also in this episode, Dr. Shaw continues to explore one of the four main principles from one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements.  In this case, it's the notion of "not taking things personally" which can be a challenge in one's own life.  Dr. Shaw delivers not only a solid interpretation of what it truly means to not take things personally, but she adds in some wonderful illustrative examples of how that principle or "agreement" can be applied effectively when taking care of and teaching young children. 

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 51

In this brief episode, Dr. Shaw talks about going back to school, but not in general terms as the return to brick and mortar classrooms has a whole new meaning this year.  Dr. Shaw offers some advice on what's important and how to support our children during this time of new beginning.  The good news is that most children are quite excited about the prospect of re-joining the social situations that school days offer.  Again, this quick podcast offers some valuable insight for parents regarding their priorities at this time.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 50

In this episode, Dr. Shaw explores a topic that came up via contact with one of the families in her circle of friends and it is the subject of stress.  Different people react differently to stressful stimuli... some of us have a short fuse when stressed while others among us may close down emotionally when dealing with stress. She discusses how one needs to identify the stress and initiate a strategy to deal with it rather than allow the stress to overwhelm our emotions. What we don't want is for the stress to disrupt the way we behave with those we love, and what we do want is to not only handle the stress as best we can, but to model our successful strategies for our children.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 49

In this episode, Dr. Shaw returns to her discussion about the content in the Q&A section of her parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   She has a section in that book that covers her "ten most frequently asked questions" which come from parents and educators who are fans of her podcast.  That Q&A makes up the closing section of her parenting guide, and if offers up some very practical applications of the content offered up in the first half of her book which are Dr. Shaw's 10 governing principles for effective communication with children.  This week, she dives into 10th question from the Q&A and that is... "Are there any subjects that are taboo to discuss with children?"   It's a challenging question as each family has different values and mores, but as she reads through the answer to that question in her book, Dr. Shaw covers some important ground and offers a solid point of view on the answer to that question.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 48

In this episode, Dr. Shaw explores one of the four main principles from one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements.  In this case, it's the notion of being "impeccable with your word" which can be a challenge in one's own life.  Dr. Shaw's interpretation is that you must not go against yourself or be negative regarding your own actions.  She deftly ties that concept into parenting and teaching, and she talks about how it is important in education to support the learning lessons they encounter.  She also emphasizes that when there is a problem, the problem does not define a person, and children need to be supported in the notion of who they really are.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 47

In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the notion of children having good manners. Interestingly, her first children's picture book for social and emotional learning was called "Good Manners."  The podcast begins with the question... is there a right and wrong way to do something?   Some things are subjective, but in the discussion of whether a child is "spoiled" or not it's not as clear.  Dr. Shaw's philosophy is that behavior equals need and there is nothing wrong with getting one's needs met.  If a child is overly getting what they WANT and not necessarily what they need, it could lead to a lack of appreciation.  But good manners is important... saying "please" and "thank you" is a simply way of not sounding bossy and of creating a momentary acknowledgement of appreciation.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 46

In this episode, Dr. Shaw uses an example of communication among adults to illustrate a successful strategy for communication with children. Her train of thought begins with an example of two adults communicating in which one or both of the adults might become defensive during a conversation. Her suggestion for the adults is to not be defensive but to be accommodating in terms of solving the mis-communication. She then turns that into a model for children which leads to a discussion about when to accommodate and when to have no room for negotiation with a child.  It comes down to clarity and respect within the adult-child communication, and once again, it's best to hear her description of these effective strategies, and you can do so in this episode.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 45

In this episode, Dr. Shaw shares a recent revelation about her work... that the "material" of life and the experiences of daily living provide the most true path to personal growth and learning.  For Dr. Shaw, the revelation was that her series of 22 children's picture books for social and emotional learning was very much inspired by daily conversations with fellow educators as much as it was by her extensive in-classroom experience.   It's best to hear her share her thoughts, and she does that in this brief but profound podcast.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 44

Once again this week, Dr. Shaw has postponed further discussion about her new parenting book in order to lead a helpful discussion for parents on a slightly different topic.  Her book is a guide for effective communication with children, and in actuality, the topic of this podcast is not unrelated to that subject matter.  This discussion is related to parents and their modeling of behavior for children, and the question that Dr. Shaw explores here is... if a parent or caretaker has a limitation in a particular area, how should that adult behave around a child so that the limitations of the adult do not create a limiting environment for the child.  Dr. Shaw shares examples and offers strategies for how to do what's best for the child's development.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 43

In this episode, Dr. Shaw once again tables the conversation about her parenting guide in order to answer a question from a parent that came in via her website at www.learnwithmeremotely.com.   The question involved an older sibling that was acting out due to feeling jealous of a new baby in the house.  Dr. Shaw actually has TWO children's picture books that are germane to this topic... one is called Jealousy and the other is called Birth of a Sibling.  This podcast draws on the learning lessons of both of those books.  In "Jealousy" a child envies the possessions of another child, but it taught to not worry about what someone else has, but to count the blessing for what YOU have.  In "Birth of a Sibling" it does deal with the life event of a new baby coming into the household.  Dr. Shaw utilizes some very special strategies from that book during this podcast, and as always, her direct method of communication turns out to be both simple and profound.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 42

Once again this week, Dr. Shaw has paused her conversation about her current parenting guide.  She had been spending each podcast episode recently going through the Q & A section of her recent book for parents on effective communication with children, one question and answer at a time.  But two things happened recently related to Dr. Shaw's work and she decided to share her reaction to those events as the subject matter on this podcast.  One story that Dr. Shaw shares here is with regard to a recent meet-up that she had with a young child who has been reading her children's picture books for social and emotional learning.  When the child met the real life "Min Min" from the books, he was enthralled.  He asked about Olivia, the other "star" of the books series, and he wanted to meet her as well.  It was a very gratifying moment for Dr. Shaw and she shares that story.  She also discusses a negative review of her books that popped up on Amazon, a review where one of her simplest books was critiqued as "too advanced" for young children.  Dr. Shaw discusses how this was an eye-opening experience, not because of any defensiveness on her part, but because it was a reminder that her ability to communicate with young children is so uncommon that it can be perceived as over the heads of youngsters when in fact, young children understand her words implicitly.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 41

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw takes a moment away from the discussion she's been having about the Q&A section of her recent parenting book.  Instead of diving into the next question, she decided to share a brief bit of audio pulled from a video that was created for her potential production partners on a television project.  The audio is brief and it sounds different than her usual recordings as, again, it was pulled from a video, but still, the content is important and that's why it is being shared here.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 40

In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the next item to come up in the Q&A section of her recent parenting book, and this time it is the 9th question in that Q&A.  The book is called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN, and in recent weeks, she has been reviewing the closing section of that book which is a list of the "ten most frequently asked questions" from parents and educators.  The answers to those common questions serve to illustrate practical applications of Dr. Shaw's 10 governing principles for effective communication with children which make up the opening section of her parenting guide.  At the start of this podcast, Dr. Shaw shares a personal reflection on how her current endeavors feel like right action, done because it's what's desired, not required by others.  Then there's that 9th question from the Q&A, and that question is, "Can we address internal versus external rewards and reinforcement?"  Dr. Shaw is a big proponent of limiting external rewards and having a child's learning or experience be the reward in and of itself.  It's another insightful discussion from Dr. Mindy Shaw.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 39

In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the next item to come up in the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   In recent weeks, she has been reviewing her valuable list of the "ten most frequently asked questions" which came from parents and educators who are fans of her podcast.  Those questions, plus one 11th bonus question, make up the closing section of her parenting guide, and that Q&A section offers some very practical applications of the content offered up in the first half of her book, and that is Dr. Shaw's 10 governing principles for effective communication with children.  Before diving headfirst into answering that question, Dr. Shaw reflects on a recent visit with family which reminded her that a full life is a life filled with love.  Then, Dr. Shaw arrives at the moment where she reveals and answers the 8th question in the Q&A section of her book, and that question is, "Can you address punishment versus natural consequences?"  Dr. Shaw discusses the negative connotation of punishment versus the learning lesson aspect of a natural consequence.  She also talks about the need for prior agreements about natural consequences and that you cannot change your mind about agreed upon consequences.  She also demonstrates an understanding that natural consequences can be upsetting.  It's more great parenting advice from both her book and from Dr. Shaw herself.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 38

In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the next item to come up in the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   In recent weeks, she has been reviewing her valuable list of the "ten most frequently asked questions" which came from parents and educators who are fans of her podcast.  Those questions, plus one 11th bonus question, make up the closing section of her parenting guide, and that Q&A section offers some very practical applications of the content offered up in the first half of her book, and that is Dr. Shaw's 10 governing principles for effective communication with children.  This week, she dives into seventh question from the Q&A and that is... "How can I teach my child how to share?"  Before diving headfirst into answering that question, Dr. Shaw reflects for a moment on the difference between being and doing. Then, when she does address the question of sharing, the number one tip that Dr. Shaw provides is to model it.  When sharing occurs in your family, mark it, note it and discuss it.  By shining a spotlight on the behavior of sharing, it will become a valued way of living. She also mentions related behaviors such as taking turns.  This is another simple yet profound lesson from Dr. Shaw.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 37

In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the next item to come up in the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   If you are new to this series, Dr. Shaw has been going through the "ten most frequently asked questions" from parents who are fans of her podcast.  Those questions, plus one 11th bonus question, make up the closing section of her parenting guide, and that Q&A section offers some very practical applications of the content offered up in the first half of her book, and that is Dr. Shaw's 10 governing principles for effective communication with children.  This week, she dives into sixth question from the Q&A and that is... "What do I do if my child won’t eat the food that I serve?"  Dr. Shaw shares a few fascinating angles on this question, and one point of view involves one of her favorite topics, front-loading.  Clearly, if there's an agreement with your child ahead of time, this predicament will be avoided, and if not, there will be natural consequences.  Dr. Shaw also talks quite a bit in this podcast about giving responsibility to a child.  It's more great tips for parents and educators, so enjoy!  

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 36

In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues to review the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   However, before she gets to the section of the book being recapped on this podcast episode, Dr. Shaw openly reflects on the notion of championing.  To champion someone is a wonderful means of emotional support, and we often don't take the time to champion our children. Think about how you feel when someone champions you, and you will realize how important it can be for a child.  Regarding her parenting guide, as of this podcast episode, Dr. Shaw is spending time discussing the above-referenced closing section of the book which features the ten most frequently asked questions that Dr. Shaw hears from parents and podcast listeners.  This week, she dives into fifth of those questions which is also perhaps the most common question, "What do I do with my children who always want to talk when I am uncomfortable talking because I don’t know what to say?"  Dr. Shaw shares that she loves the honesty of this question, and her answer include a range of parenting tips, from recommending that we recognize that some of us are more extroverted than others to suggestion ways to get professional help from a counsellor and how to even introduce that concept to a child.  Again, it's great material, so enjoy!

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 35

In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues to review the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   In recent podcasts, Dr. Shaw has reviewed the 10 governing principles for effective parent-child communication which forms the opening section of her book, however, the closing section of the book features the ten most frequently asked questions that Dr. Shaw hears from parents and podcast listeners.  This week, she dives into fourth of those questions which is, "How can I get my child to talk when my child never wants to tell me how they feel?"  Dr. Shaw has a terrific answer which is all outlined in this podcast, and her recommendation involves both honoring the fact that different children have different skills when it comes to verbal communication and also modeling how to initiate potentially sensitive conversations.  It's really a masterful bit of parent-child advice, so enjoy.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 34

In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues to review the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   However, before she gets to the section of the book being recapped on this podcast episode, Dr. Shaw openly discusses her motivation for sharing knowledge.  She has a true philosophy of "paying it forward," and her longstanding multi-age school program for a combined Kindergarten-First Grade classroom served as a perfect example and illustration of that philosophy.  Regarding her parenting guide, as of this podcast episode, Dr. Shaw is spending time discussing the above-reference closing section of the book which features the ten most frequently asked questions that Dr. Shaw hears from parents and podcast listeners.  This week, she dives into third of those questions which is also perhaps the most common question, "What do I do when my child won’t listen to me?   No one understands parent-child communication better than Dr. Shaw, and her answer to this question which focuses on front-loading agreements between parent and child is astoundingly simple and accurate. This is great material, and it addresses what is apparently a very common dilemma.  Enjoy!

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 33

In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues to review the Q&A section of her recent parenting book called I LIKE HOW YOU SPEAK TO ME... A PARENT'S GUIDE TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN.   In recent podcasts, Dr. Shaw has reviewed the 10 governing principles for effective parent-child communication which forms the opening section of her book, but the closing section of the book features the ten most frequently asked questions that Dr. Shaw hears from parents and podcast listeners.  This week, she dives into second of those questions which is, "How do get my child to go to bed at bedtime?"   Dr. Shaw has the answer which is all centered on front-loading... front-loading both an agreement about the details of bedtime and the consequences for not upholding that agreement. This is great material, and it addresses a very common scenario, so enjoy.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 32

In this episode, Dr. Shaw returns to the topic of her recent parenting book titled I Like How You Speak to Me - A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children.  Over the course of recent podcasts, Dr. Shaw had reviewed the all-important 10 governing principles for effective communication as documented in her book.  Now, starting on this podcast, she is taking the listener through the Q & A section of her book during which she answers the 10 most frequently asked questions that parents have brought to Dr. Shaw... plus one bonus question.   This week's question is a common one... How can I stop getting impatient, frustrated or angry when we are in a hurry and my child is moving slower than a snail?  Listen closely.... the answer to this question also holds the key to many more parent-child dilemmas.  

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 31

This week Dr. Shaw is featuring the audio of another media appearance, this time it's from WDCW-TV in Washington, DC.  Reporter Jimmy Alexander from DCW50, the CW Network Affiliate in Washington, produced and anchored a piece about children returning to school post-pandemic, and he was kind enough to seek out Dr. Shaw's opinions on that subject and talk with her about her work. This podcast episode is actually the audio of that interview and the report in which is appears.   

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 30

On her last podcast, Dr. Shaw shared a recent media appearance where she was interviewed about her work, but two episodes ago, Dr. Shaw wrapped up her discussion of her Ten Governing Principles that guide effective communication with children. The list of those principles and the discussion around them form the first major section of Dr. Shaw's new parenting guide available on Amazon.  In the middle of that book there is a short children's book which serves as a model for why Dr. Shaw's style of communicating with young children is so effective, and in this podcast, along with a recap of recent events for Dr. Shaw and a recap of those 10 governing principles, there is a reading of the children's section of the parenting guide. What's most important is that the information and its practical application all blend together the way Dr. Shaw presents it.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 29

On this episode, Dr. Shaw takes a break from her recent podcast format whereby she has been sharing her 10 governing principles for effective communication with children.  Those principles form an important opening section of her new parenting book which can be found here https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WJRX7JF .  The recent publishing of that book landed her once again on WDST-FM in Woodstock where she was a return guest on the Sunday show known as The Woodstock Roundtable.  That program is hosted by Doug Grunther, and Dr. Shaw's recent guest appearance on that program made for a great discussion about her new parenting guide and about her work in general including all of her social and emotional learning books for children.  This interview with Dr. Shaw was lively and interesting, so she decided to share it as this week's podcast.  Enjoy.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 28

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw continues to review her "Ten Governing Principles" for effective communication with children.  These principles make up the foundation of her new guidebook for parents just published recently and available at Amazon.com.  The book is titled I Like How You Speak to Me... A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children, and the opening section of that book lists the aforementioned Ten Governing Principles for effective communication. Dr. Shaw promised that for ten straight podcasts she would delve into a discussion of one guiding principle per episode, and this is the tenth and final one in this series of conversations.  Her tenth governing principle, the one she discusses here, is TO BE PRESENT AND IN THE MOMENT. While Dr. Shaw starts out by stating that we should always want to be in the moment in our lives, it's not always so easy, especially when raising children. There's lots to do, and there always seems to be a stressful moment.  Sometimes those moments get in the way of paying attention to the one entity that needs your attention right then and there, your child. Each of the 10 governing principles is intended to be used in tandem with the other 9, and between this podcast series and her new parenting book, Dr. Shaw shares some great strategies for getting your parent-child communication to actually work.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 27

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw continues to review her "Ten Governing Principles" for effective communication with children.  First, she starts off with a recap of all of her recent work, especially her 20+ children's nonfiction picture books for Social and Emotional Learning.  Dr. Shaw then transitions into a brief but potent discussion of her 9th Governing Principle from her new parenting book. The 10 governing principles form the backbone of her guidebook for parents just published recently and available at Amazon.com.  The book has the appropriate title of I Like How You Speak to Me... A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children, and the opening section of that book lists the aforementioned Ten Governing Principles for effective communication. Dr. Shaw promised that for ten straight podcasts she would delve into a discussion of one guiding principle per episode, and this is the ninth of those ten.  Her ninth governing principle, the one she discusses here, is TO BE RESPECTFUL.  In Dr. Shaw's opinion, respect is mutual and respect is earned.  As a parent you don't just "get" respect, you model it and you earn it.  Each of the 10 governing principles is intended to be used in tandem with the other 9, and between this podcast series and her new parenting book, Dr. Shaw shares some great strategies for getting your parent-child communication to actually work.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 26

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw continues to review her "Ten Governing Principles" for effective communication with children.  Those principles for the backbone of her new parenting guide just published recently and available at Amazon.com.  That new book was first introduced during this podcast series a number of weeks ago, and the concept for Dr. Shaw's new parenting guide is to help parents and educators communicate effectively with young children.  The book has the appropriate title of I Like How You Speak to Me... A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children, and the opening section of that book lists the aforementioned Ten Governing Principles for effective communication. Dr. Shaw promised that for ten straight podcasts she would delve into a discussion of one guiding principle per episode, and this is the eighth of those ten.  Her eighth governing principle, the one she discusses here, is TO ALWAYS CHECK FOR UNDERSTANDING.  While it sounds obvious, checking that your child is clear about what you are saying is completely necessary for effective communication because without understanding one's communication cannot possibly be effective.  Perhaps the biggest revelation in this podcast is HOW you can check for understanding and what to do about it if it turns out your child does not understand what you are saying. Each of the 10 governing principles is intended to be used in tandem with the other 9, and between this podcast series and her new parenting book, Dr. Shaw shares some great strategies for getting your parent-child communication to actually work.

Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw - Ep 25

In this podcast, Dr. Shaw continues to review her "Ten Governing Principles" for effective communication with children that are featured in her brand new parenting guide just out and available at Amazon.com.  This new book was first announced during this Dr. Shaw podcast a number of weeks ago, and the concept for this new parenting guide is to help parents and educators communicate effectively with young children.  The book has the appropriate title of I Like How You Speak to Me... A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children, and the opening section of that book lists Dr. Shaw's Ten Governing Principles for effective communication. Dr. Shaw promised that for ten straight podcasts she would delve into a discussion of one guiding principle per episode, and this is the seventh of those ten.  Her seventh governing principle, the one she discusses here, is TO HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS.  If you know Dr. Shaw or have been following her work for a while now, then you know that this principle is very much in-keeping with her philosophy about education and about life in general.  As Dr. Shaw discusses what it means to have and maintain high expectations for your children as well as for yourself, she offers up several examples, including one self-deprecating tale.  In the end, you'll see how this governing principle is so important and how it works intermingled with the other 9 governing principles outlined in her parenting guide.